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Location: Why don't men ask women out any more?
Discussion: Fear of Rejection
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Anonymous |
Fear of Rejection
May 9 2007, 10:03 PM EDT As a guy, the fear of rejection is THE very reason I don't ask women out. Not from a lack of self confidence but because of history. I mean, just think back as far as you can in your own life time and try to remember what your parents and their parents said to you about how men and women used to meet and date. In my opinion, today's dating world has been changed by political correctness and social events. What used to be standard operating procedure "back in the day" is very taboo today or at least considered "so yesterday". Style, finesse, timing, and words used seemed to be so important to women that one slip up can land a guy out the door and into the cold. It ain't worth it. 12 out of 14 found this valuable. Do you? |
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stepcmpb stepcmpb |
RE: Fear of Rejection
Jun 4 2007, 8:06 AM EDT I don't necessarily agree with what you are saying. It's better to attempt something and fail than to have never tried at all. This world is messed up! People are too afraid and too wounded and so that keeps them locked up in a prison. Fear is the prisoner, the deceiver that lies to your heart. It always make you wonder and question what would have happened if I had just asked that person out. Nah, you have to be fearless without looking back. No, my friend you can't judge every single woman based on society's norms and standards. I happen to be a woman who doesn't follow what this society tells me to believe. It's not about finesse or timing for me. It's about being passionate and being honest at the same time. If I'm not interested, I won't insult the guy, but I will let him know that he's a nice person, but I'm just not interested, however I am interested interested then, I will say, hey, lets get to know each other. 1 out of 1 found this valuable. Do you? |
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CryingDove CryingDove |
RE: Fear of Rejection
Feb 11 2008, 1:12 PM EST As you stated in your post, you are an exception to the norm. I tip my hat to you. (Wait ,should I do that.....that is so out-dated). Dear, I agree with what you are saying about being honest . ( Holy Moly....you are not some kind of animal...please ignore the word Dear). I would love to give you a hug or a high five, for your post,.but I can't because I don't want to invade your space. As far as being passionate, I would have to know my date for at least 10 years and be absolutely sure, she was comfortable with it. So I will just say: "Your post is interesting". signed a guy trying to "dance the dance" in today's crazy mixed up world. 1 out of 1 found this valuable. Do you? |
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cmoore_2 cmoore_2 |
RE: Fear of Rejection
Feb 11 2008, 4:14 PM EST I fully understand and sympathize with how you men feel....And I agree that a person must really know their date real well....But to wait for someone to get to know me for ten years?.....At my age, I may not be around to make it another ten years.(lol) 1 out of 1 found this valuable. Do you? |
 cle73 |
RE: Fear of Rejection
Mar 21 2008, 10:17 PM EDT Get over the fear or you won't get laid! here are some good tips to help you out. 1.start the conversation with a question and ask questions whenever the conversation starts to dry up. 2.smile alot,always give the image of being happy. 3.talk about good things in your life not negative things about your life. 4.give creative comploments that make them feel unique. 5.try your best to be some what funny,and it's ok to tease them a little bit. 2 out of 2 found this valuable. Do you? |
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amkoenig84 amkoenig84 |
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Jun 2 2008, 3:31 PM EDT I practice simply being nice to everyone I meet, and try to put humor into it. Im always the cause for laughter around me, always bring great advice and have something interesing about me. Im never boring. But, still I find being rejected when im with my friends that are better looking than me. All I know is that I have to try harder. I still get rejected. Oh well...life goes on. He who gets rejected the most still gets the most phone numbers....as long as guys arent stupid players or anything, then they should have no problem getting an awesome woman in their life. Women should beware of those cheesey, lying players....I cant stand fakes!!!! Rejection WILL ALWAYS happen.....its their loss, think of it that way. Did you REALLY like her? IF you did, you might have tried A LOT harder! Do you find this valuable? |