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blondie28725 |
help
Nov 26 2007, 11:31 PM EST
i really like this guy and we went out a couple months ago and i have liked him for over two years now. but i kinda cheated on him and he didnt talk to me for a while but we are good friends now. i want to ask him out again and he likes me but he doesnt want to say yes because he doesnt want to get hurt. what should i do?
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CryingDove |
1. RE: help
Feb 5 2008, 5:05 PM EST
There is a lot of betwen the lines reading here. You have like this guy for over 2 years. You finally went out a couple of months ago, and you kinda cheated on him. I cannot help to believe that after going out a relationship started between you and he. Dating others and not being in a relationship is not cheating. Dating others while in a relationship is cheating. You are lucky he still remains your friend and he is smart not saying yes to rekindling the relationship. He was burned once. If there is going to be something lasting in your relationship, it is you that has to provide the foundation of trust for him to feel comfortable in any relationship with you other than being friends. Signed a guy who has been there.
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singlenlovinit |
2. RE: help
Feb 6 2008, 9:07 AM EST
Once you lose trust it is hard to regain it. I would move on. Start new with a clean slate with someone. We all make mistakes but I have learned from being cheated on that it is hard to go back. Best of luck to you
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4. RE: help
Feb 6 2008, 10:09 AM EST
"Once you lose trust it is hard to regain it. I would move on. Start new with a clean slate with someone. We all make mistakes but I have learned from being cheated on that it is hard to go back. Best of luck to you"I love it ! "Oops I cheated. Oh Well " "See ya - Wouldn't want to be ya !" is your advice. Blonde28725 is the one that CHEATED. Blonde wants her cake and eat it to. Trust is most important in any relationship. Once it is betrayed I would agree with your intial quote "Once you lose trust it is hard to regain it." The operative word is HARD. It takes time to recover from the fall from betrayed trust. It also takes hard work on both parts to re-establish it. But BOTH need to want it to happen. In Blonde's situation, the guy does not. So my suggestion to Blonde would be, do not find someone NEW, until you take time to learn what a relationship is all about. And what each must bring to the relatiohship to have it last. "Kinda cheated on him" says you are not even being honest with yourself. Either you cheated or you didn't. In either case, you are feeling the consequences of your actions. signed --- brutefully honest guy 2 out of 3 found this valuable. Do you? |
Riath |
5. RE: help
May 5 2008, 2:21 PM EDT
I think you should talk to him frankly. No hiding. And this time, try to be a "loyal" partner. I am gay, so I don't meet many guys. I have been with Greg for over 10 years. Thank you! Have a good day! Lots of love!!!--Riath 0 out of 1 found this valuable. Do you? |
