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Why don't men ask women out any more?
According to the authors of He’s Just Not That Into You, the only reason a man doesn’t approach a woman is because he doesn’t want to. “If he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out,” they write. Mason Grigsby, co-author of Love at Second Sight, agrees, to a certain extent. “If a guy doesn’t feel there’s an attraction, he won’t ask,” he says. “That’s just human nature. But historically, men have always had to approach women. And if you talk to men about how often they get rejected, they’ll tell you—it gets wearing after a while.”
So wearing that they’ve simply given up asking? “Maybe men are afraid of rejection,” he says. “They’ve lost confidence. Their egos aren’t that good. My number-one dating tip for women is to be proactive about meeting people. If you’re in an elevator with a guy with a nice-looking tie, comment on it. It lets the man know you’re open to a conversation. Most men think women are not open to conversation, they’ve been shut down so much. You’ve got to let people know that you’re open and friendly.”
So wearing that they’ve simply given up asking? “Maybe men are afraid of rejection,” he says. “They’ve lost confidence. Their egos aren’t that good. My number-one dating tip for women is to be proactive about meeting people. If you’re in an elevator with a guy with a nice-looking tie, comment on it. It lets the man know you’re open to a conversation. Most men think women are not open to conversation, they’ve been shut down so much. You’ve got to let people know that you’re open and friendly.”
- Is it fear of rejection? Are you really not that into her? Or is something else? Men, women weigh in!
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| Shockberta | Some thoughts. | 3 | Dec 2 2009, 4:05 AM EST by joe1472 | ||
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Thread started: Jul 25 2009, 7:36 PM EDT
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First off, the way men go about interacting with women today is dead wrong. For women to like you, you have to be risky and say risky things and create a lot sexually tension. You have to forget about all the outside bullshit, race, class, job, etc. All you need to know you are a male animal and she is a female animal and it is your job to lead her and dominate her. Evolution says it must be this way and your must comply to your role as a man or you will fall off the evolutionary tree. I am convinced men waste far to much time with dating and driving her around for useless activities. Let's be honest folks a man wants to have sex with a nice looking woman and a woman wants to have sex with a dominate sexually aggressive male. A man instantly feel like he want to have sex with a hot woman 1 seconds after seeing her. Well I am convinced the same things applies for women. They are attracted to the man who stands like a man, acts like a man, and most importantly treats them like a sexual woman. I am convinced sex between two humans could occur within the first 5 minutes of meeting each other if all attractive switches were turned on. Evolution does not have time to screw around with dating and getting to know someone, it needs pass genes on now or something may go extinct. Our brains are still set up for living in the wild as hunter gathers and this is the main reason we run into all these problems. |
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| Anonymous | well... | 4 | Jul 25 2009, 7:52 PM EDT by Shockberta | ||
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Thread started: Jun 29 2006, 4:56 PM EDT
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I think it's a combination of both fear of rejection and simply just not being that into someone. If a guy is very attracted to you, chances are hes also intimidated by your stunning good looks or fabulous personality. He may have a hard time approaching you because he is scared of rejection. I think girls need to give guys breaks sometimes and make the first move (even if its just a hello in the elevator) to show them that they just might have a chance. BUT men still should follow through and do the asking...its a guys job right?
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| AlekNovy | Because we're sick and tired. | 0 | Feb 23 2009, 6:36 AM EST by AlekNovy | ||
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Thread started: Feb 23 2009, 6:36 AM EST
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I did a survey once of a ton of men. Above-average men at that, both in fitness, looks, intelligence and success in life. The question was, have you ever had a girl approach you or ask you out. Only a few guys said yes, and in both cases it was a desperate woman who was way below average.
Personally. It's not worth the effort. I've spent a lot of effort in "pursuing women". It takes a huge emotional toll on you to go through that whole process.If its someone you see again and again, you have to see the woman who said no, again and again and again. Considering if you're not george clooney, it then takes going through that process like 10 times. And then you "suceed", you go through a date, you kiss the girl and spend some time with her... And you're like... WAIT? This was it? All that effort for this? I get more enjoyment out of reading a good book. It would be different if: -Women did 50% of the work. If women actually didn't artifically boost their apperances by artificial hard-to-get type strategies (i don't want him to think i'm easy)... If women did 50% of the work, men would be more wiling to ask women out. Right now its a VERY bad deal. Its invest 1000 points of effort, to get back 10 points of reward (if you get lucky). It's a very very bad deal. And today with pornography, video-games and the like, its very easy to demotivate a man from doing all that work. Its like, its not worth it. |
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